I have been doing a lot of soul-searching over the last months and year, and am transitioning in terms of career and private life. Because I think this is what lots of other people are doing, in their search for higher consciousness and ‘ forms of being’, I wanted to share my lessons and insights with you, hopefully as guidance to others who feel they are kind of ‘floating’ in their life journey at this moment.
First, what does it feel like, to ‘transition’? If any of the below are bits and pieces you are experiencing, then join the club folks! Nothing to be scared about, although I know, it feels pretty scary. :-)
Below I mention three according to me major signs you are in a transition, and share a bit of how I deal with each, and how I use it to ride the wave of change. :)
– You feel like at least some of the people you know currently are somehow draining your energy. That is okay. This is because you are on a journey, and they are part of your past. They may not be part of your future when you reach your next destination point.
Either draw the boundaries while still remaining in touch and meeting up with those people, or just take distance. Explain it to yourself this has nothing to do with them, or you, it is a natural course of change in life. Accept, that is the only way to change.
Those who are really your friends will understand. Some of them, especially those who expect you to respect them, might get upset. Just accept all these aspects and remain in your bubble. You need your bubble to weave the threads of your new life. :)
– You are often gripped by fear. Oh well, that is a sign you are really doing some work on yourself and are on a journey.
When this happens, accept your fear. Then examine all the options. What is really the worst that can happen? Look into it, is it that you may not be able to stay where you are? Then think of where else you could go. Is that really going to be so bad? Probably not. Think of all the times you have been faced with something impossible and yet you have been able to make it. Dance with your fear, and transform it into something more positive and beautiful. Remember that unless we have fear we can also not have courage. So fear is actually a pretty good thing. ;-)
– You feel like you are on the pulse of something, but that thing is yet to be discovered and created by you. Well that is the most exciting part, and a clear call you need to keep doing. Just keep on doing, but not senselessly, and be active, not just in your deeds, but also in your mind.
Explore whatever it is you wish to change. Is it life balance? Then live it, take risks from your current point of view, experiment.
Is it a new stage in your relationships? Then bring it around in a steady way, accepting that everything is about discovery and that all that happens is just feedback and feedback loops.
Is it about a new way of living your intimate relationship and love life? Well then, take a risk, watch how you feel and experiment with feeling good, no matter what. Focus on things that give you energy and remove the ones that are not.
What really helps here is making it clear to you what your life principles are, and accepting these might not be everyone else’s. And yes, we all have principles according to which we live our lives. It is our mission in life to proclaim these and as much as possible live our life accordingly.
At the same time though, we will come across people and situations that are not build according to the same principles, or just don’t have strong principles. When this happens, recognise, and move swiftly forward. It is no one’s fault. It is just not your thing. The Universe is big and with space for everything in it. We are best at remaining true to ourselves when we maximise our value, that is invest energy, but do not overload with it. That way we save ourselves for when we are truly in our element. Life is simple, we only need to enhance what we stand for in it.
All the above is a process and comes around through self-awareness. Yes, you can. If you are in a transition, then think of as a gift. You will learn so much. If you are in it, you can take it. You are meant to be in it because you are strong and worthy. It is your chance. :-)
I find these help me on my journey. Are they also helping you?
Wishing you a great time being a mindful human being. :-)