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As I was flowing on the mat this morning, something my first yoga teacher had told me kept crawling in: ‘In yoga, you have to start with what you like’.

I only marginally understood him at the time. Today, 2.5 years later, his words have a lot more meaning.

2.5 years into my yoga journey and I am nowhere as near as where I could be and yet so much further away from where I started ))))). Triconasana (triangle pose) used to be one of my favourites but today I don’t have favourites anymore. Today it is so much more about ‘integration’ in my practice, about combining, opening, challenging, soothing, in various proportions depending on the day, the period and my state of being ))))

However, I would not be there had I not started with, looked forward to and rejoiced in what I ultimately liked the most then: my triconasana – triange pose.

http://yogalily.com/yoga-poses-twists-triangle-pose-trikonasana/

Triconasana Pose

Was I ready? No. Are we ever? No we aren’t. But then what made me do it? I took a decision to try, a decision out of hope, to try yoga out. Was I afraid? Probably, considering I had breathing issues, and wasn’t sure I can make it physically. But, I must have replaced fear with hope, and decided things can not really get much worse. (This is what we all ought to do when we are afraid. Recognise, then turn fear into hope, and do what made us afraid in the first place. … Because fear is human, and like all else, a source of energy to drive us or not forward.)

As I took this decision, I also trusted there were going to be things, people, situations along the way to help me on this journey, a journey I had no idea where it led. I had no idea what those things were going to be – I can only articulate them now – but I trusted, I had faith, I knew this CAN work, I wanted to try.

And this is precisely how it has been: there have been teachers, other practitioners, yoga mats that stick well so that you can hold on well onto a challenging pose, props, blocks, blankets, yoga studios, everything to help me get along the way.

And so this morning, as I was flowing on the mat, I somehow remembered all this. And I could also see a clear analogy between my yoga journey and the way we, or I try to go about life.

Because my yoga journey illustrates really well, with the deep mechanics of it, that the state of readiness doesn’t exist. Originally created by our brains to protect, and preserve us, ‘I am not ready’ often actually stops us not just from progressing, but also from living.

Perfection is procrastination, as I heard a communications expert say recently.

And so yes, or rather no, we are NEVER really ready for that new job, to start a new relationship, to fall in love again and make ourselves so vulnerable (but also live something beautiful), to move countries, etc. No, we are never really ready for that interview, or for the exam that’s coming, or for the workshop to facilitate tomorrow. If you think about it, you will see that probably most if not all of what you planned didn’t happen the way you planned. Or if it did, it was adding to, but not living.

Readiness is an illusion. What we do instead (apart from preparing) is making a choice between hope and fear and moving forward. (There is a third choice, prioritisation, not discussed here.)

If we choose hope, we are dancing. We might still fall but the light is on our side. We get up and try again. If we choose fear, we are frozen, and as much as this is also a kind of swap of energies and in that sense moving forward, we are making an active choice to stay away from the light (or enlightenment).

And, if we choose hope as I did on my yoga journey, we start with what we like and can do well )))) That is how we get into it.

Similarly, we start a new job by using our innate and learned strengths, and we use those to grow and learn more and more. We start a new relationship by (I guess …) trusting it will go well, by putting ourselves forward, by practicing the good we have known from previous relationships, by speaking openly about our fears, sometimes only to discover new amazing things about ourselves and our partner. … And this is how after a couple of years, we have a totally new experience in the bag, nothing like what we could have planned or thought could have happened.

And then as we do this – just like the props and the sticky mats -, there is plenty of helping hand along the way (colleagues, our partner, friends and family, to say the least). They are there if we only choose hope and try, try, try.
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By Josephine Wall

So this is what my morning practice taught me this time around. It reaffirmed my deep conviction life is not possible without hope (like my name, Nadejda )))). That we are never really ready unless we take the plunge and try. That life on the mat is often life in real life.

… As I often wobble on the mat, I also struggle with these choices in real life. But, I am willing to try. And I think this makes all the difference.

Thank you. Namaste  🙂
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I have been doing a lot of soul-searching over the last months and year, and am transitioning in terms of career and private life. Because I think this is what lots of other people are doing, in their search for higher consciousness and ‘ forms of being’, I wanted to share my lessons and insights with you, hopefully as guidance to others who feel they are kind of ‘floating’ in their life journey at this moment.

First, what does it feel like, to ‘transition’? If any of the below are bits and pieces you are experiencing, then join the club folks! Nothing to be scared about, although I know, it feels pretty scary. 🙂

Below I mention three according to me major signs you are in a transition, and share a bit of how I deal with each, and how I use it to ride the wave of change. 🙂

– You feel like at least some of the people you know currently are somehow draining your energy. That is okay. This is because you are on a journey, and they are part of your past. They may not be part of your future when you reach your next destination point.

Either draw the boundaries while still remaining in touch and meeting up with those people, or just take distance. Explain it to yourself this has nothing to do with them, or you, it is a natural course of change in life. Accept, that is the only way to change.

Those who are really your friends will understand. Some of them, especially those who expect you to respect them, might get upset. Just accept all these aspects and remain in your bubble. You need your bubble to weave the threads of your new life. 🙂

– You are often gripped by fear. Oh well, that is a sign you are really doing some work on yourself and are on a journey.

When this happens, accept your fear. Then examine all the options. What is really the worst that can happen? Look into it, is it that you may not be able to stay where you are? Then think of where else you could go. Is that really going to be so bad? Probably not. Think of all the times you have been faced with something impossible and yet you have been able to make it. Dance with your fear, and transform it into something more positive and beautiful. Remember that unless we have fear we can also not have courage. So fear is actually a pretty good thing. 😉

– You feel like you are on the pulse of something, but that thing is yet to be discovered and created by you. Well that is the most exciting part, and a clear call you need to keep doing. Just keep on doing, but not senselessly, and be active, not just in your deeds, but also in your mind.

Explore whatever it is you wish to change. Is it life balance? Then live it, take risks from your current point of view, experiment.

Is it a new stage in your relationships? Then bring it around in a steady way, accepting that everything is about discovery and that all that happens is just feedback and feedback loops.

Is it about a new way of living your intimate relationship and love life? Well then, take a risk, watch how you feel and experiment with feeling good, no matter what. Focus on things that give you energy and remove the ones that are not.

What really helps here is making it clear to you what your life principles are, and accepting these might not be everyone else’s. And yes, we all have principles according to which we live our lives. It is our mission in life to proclaim these and as much as possible live our life accordingly.

At the same time though, we will come across people and situations that are not build according to the same principles, or just don’t have strong principles. When this happens, recognise, and move swiftly forward. It is no one’s fault. It is just not your thing. The Universe is big and with space for everything in it. We are best at remaining true to ourselves when we maximise our value, that is invest energy, but do not overload with it. That way we save ourselves for when we are truly in our element. Life is simple, we only need to enhance what we stand for in it.

All the above is a process and comes around through self-awareness. Yes, you can. If you are in a transition, then think of as a gift. You will learn so much. If you are in it, you can take it. You are meant to be in it because you are strong and worthy. It is your chance. 🙂

I find these help me on my journey. Are they also helping you?

Wishing you a great time being a mindful human being. 🙂

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I know I have been silent for long – perhaps too long – and would like to apologize to my over 500 followers for my silence. Meanwhile, I would like to thank you all for following me. Thank you!!! I would not say I have been a proliferic blogger, but whatever I have posted, I have tried to make sure it is of good quality. I hope this has worked for YOU, my followers. A big thanks to you all, once and again. 🙂

I am currently going through a transition, and as part of that I am rethinking the focus of my blog and blog posts. As part of this, I would like to conduct a small experiement, and I would like you, those of you who follow me, to participate in it. Let us turn this blog into more of a multi-way communication!

By commenting on this blog post, would you please let me know the following:

– Why did you click on the ‘FOLLOW’ button on my blog? Why do you follow me? What resonates with you in my posts?

– What have you appreciated about my blog posts?

– What would you like to see more of in my posts?

– What have you not liked, what would you think I should improve?

I would LOVE TO KNOW WHAT YOU THINK. Please do let me know what you think by commenting on this blog post.

Can’t wait to hear from you. 🙂


I see the following dynamic streams in the future of our world (i.e., world = the dynamic system that represent the planet, environment, and humanity):

  • Religion

The role of religion, spiritual values and norms will increase in the years to come. This will not have much to do with the various sorts of religious institutions there are, however, unless these succeed to transform and embrace gender equality, social justice and innovation.

People will more and more want to be guided by religion in their day-to-day lives and decision making. More and more they will construct their own religion(s) though, rather than follow the ones that have been written. As much as they will appreciate the existing religions, they will also recognise their insufficiency. A world awaits where all religions fuse together to provide people with the spiritual guidance and answers they seek and need.

  • Environment

Sustainability and sustainable development will continue to be one of the most topical issues on the world’s plate today (the other ones being peace and security). The businesses that will win will generate sustainability from the heart of their organisations, and pursue sustainability as an opportunity for increased revenues.

Governments will provide more and more frameworks for business and society to embrace environmental sustainability, however a major challenge will lie in operationalising these frameworks.

Whilst richer countries will struggle to reinvent their entire systems and integrate sustainability and environmental preservation in them, poorer countries will be torn between 1) adopting sustainability as core to their systems and 2) pursuing development solutions that lift people from poverty in the short term but are unsustainable and damaging in the long run.

  • Social Innovation

What is more, stronger religion and sustainable systems underlying life on our planet will be accompanied by increased connections and collaboration within communities and across geographies. Solutions to pressing issues such as security, hunger, disease, justice, and the gender gap, will be the result of multi-stakeholder collaboration at every level – global, regional, local.

Innovation will take place in social spaces especially designed for this purpose, such as hubs, communities of practice, and groups like the World Economic Forum Global Agenda Councils. Agents of change will emerge and lead projects and initiatives beneficial to society and the environment.

  • The Human Species

With ecosystems often inadvertently changing, our bodies will change too. More and more people will live in polluted cities which will lead to gradual evolutionary changes to the human body.

In addition, the increased pace and connectedness of our lives, and the fact that we are bombarded with information, will mean changes in our brain capacity, minds and spirit. Children will learn faster than we used to. More and more of them will be born with the innate ability to intuitively sense the state of the dynamic systems we are part of, and will want to rebel against structures no longer viable.

  • The Animal Species

Some animal species will disapear, although not as many as currently feared. However, the majority of those who stay will be in decreased numbers which will tilt the biodiversity on the Earth.

For the Earth’s biodiversity to survive, human consumption will have to decrease. I believe this trend is at a tipping point and it is not yet clear how it will tip. What do you think?

What do you think about these trends? Are these all? Are there others?

Thank you.


Every year, on March 1st, I wish my friends and loved ones ”Chestita Baba Marta!” and give those whom I can reach geographically (and that is only a small proportion of them) a martenitsa. Every year, I love seeing the appreciation my friends and loved ones feel at this gesture. Martenitsas are beautiful in that they celebrate a Bulgarian custom that has survived through very many centuries (its origins are pagan).  They celebrate love, humanity and humility for nature’s law.

Matenitsas protect as the seasons change from winter to spring. They bring you good health, fortune and luck. They attract love and happiness. They ensure the energy and vitality of the coming spring throw only their good side on you. Every martenitsa is made from white and red threads, white to bring peace and good fortune, and red to bring love, good health, vitality and energy.

I wish you Chestita Baba Marta! Happy Granny Marta Day! 🙂

More about martenitsas is here.

A nice slideshow of selected martenitsas is here.

 


My great great friend Jono sent me the below poem sometime back. I find it speaks true and from within the depths of my heart. I love it (and Jono does too). I wanted to share it with you.

Merry Christmas! 🙂

The Invitation – Oriah Mountain Dreamer

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain! I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even when it’s not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.


I came across this beautiful quote today.  I could not make it invisible by not sharing it. Here it is:
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“It is lack of love for ourselves that inhibits our compassion towards others.  If we make friends with ourselves, then there is no obstacle to opening our hearts and minds to others.”

– Author unknown…
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After I read it, I took a moment to reflect whether it is true. I realised that it is. Whenever we are in love with ourselves, we immediately open to all and everything around us. And, if we are feeling negative about our lives, it is actually because we are unhappy with something about ourselves.

Such a simple yet powerful realisation. It all starts with us. We can change the world by changing ourselves. Often, we go about it the other way around, and that is a waste of our souls.

For example, you may feel stuck in a really difficult meeting with your colleagues. And you may want to escape. And you may not understand how your colleagues can be so irritating. It is not them, actually. It is you. Why is that you find them irritating? What is it about you that makes you feel irritated?

And so on. Plenty of examples can be given.

I am going to experiment with this state of being over the coming days. Join me! 🙂

My and my sister’s favourite artist, Josephine Wall, is again to my rescue in helping me to put my message across. The below two pieces speak of love and opening of the heart (and so much else). Thank you Josephine.



Yesterday a friend (thank you Steve) sent me The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Dan Pink. Watching through the ten minute video unleashed thoughts I’ve been having, since always, that I would like to share.

Dan makes an excellent point about what motivates us, ultimately, to excel at our jobs, our work and all our activities. It does not have much to do (to me not surprisingly) with financial reward. Rather, it is autonomy, mastery and purpose in what we do. If, within the terms of our work, we:

  • have the freedom to work on what we want and how we want,
  • we have the opportunity to develop mastery and skill in what interests us and
  • we feel connected to some higher purpose in the achieving of which we believe,

we excel at what we do. Not only that, but what we do is relevant to us and our societies. Money is not the key to a better world Dan says. Rather, we are the key, with our beliefs, ethics, sensing and motivation. We just need the conditions in which to unleash ourselves, and, in a world founded on control and money, we can’t.

In other words, in order for us to evolve as species, we need to forget about systems of control (which is what all kind of management is, essentially). Instead, we need to focus on enabling and fostering systems of openness and uncertainty, therefore innovation. Could this be the key to a higher level of consciousness for humanity to achieve, in order to be?

Dan’s words reminded me of Presence, a book by Peter Senge, Otto Scharmer, Joseph Jaworski and Betty sue Flowers, that I recently picked up, once and again. In the epilogue, the authors discuss, amongst other things, whether, if man were to die, there would be a better chance for the gorilla. They conclude there actually would not be, contrary to what most environmentalists would perhaps say.

Yes, if man were not to exist on our planet, the gorilla, as we know it, would probably thrive undisturbed, under no threat of extinction. However, in this scenario the gorilla will remain, always, a gorilla.

  • Could it be that the purpose of mankind is higher than what we can foresee, currently? Could there be something that we know but science can not tell us?
  • Could it be that, as we are increasingly looking up to our nature, our Earth, and (despite only some of us) trying to preserve it, in the same way gorillas are looking up to us?
  • Could it be that man is hope for gorillas to expand and grow as species, in a way that is best for them, and best for humankind?
  • Could it be that people will come to be aware of the larger purpose that connects them to the gorilla through mastery and autonomy integrated as part of the systems based on which we live our world?
  • Why do we need religions when we have ourselves?

I don’t have the answers, but I’ve been thinking.

Dan’s mastery, autonomy and purpose could be just one key to presencing our live and environment.

Perhaps the degree to which we, ultimately, are related to one another, first to the people and things we love, then to all people, then our environment and world, and then the universe, comes most striking in our awareness when we loose somebody we love.

Because of the strong connection that exists between us and them, we, deep inside of us, know how they are, metaphysically, even though they are no longer with us, at least not in terms of how they used to be.

Although they are not anymore present in our physical world, we know they are there in the world, in the universe, still. They are not dead, their bodies are, but they are not, and that is not just because we think about them and remember them, and dream about them. It is more fundamental than that. It is an awareness that it is good to accept and enjoy.

In such moments, we realize nothing disappears, just changes form. And then we know that if they are no longer here, in the form in which we used to see them, they are someplace else in the universe.

Nothing appears as clear to us as when we see with the heart.

And so, I’ve been thinking. There is a greater purpose for humanity that humanity is yet to realize, and this has something to do with how connected humanity is within itself, as well as with the world and the universe. Becoming aware of this purpose, and the bigger whole, will be a stepping stone in humanity’s evolution. Achieving it will be amazing.

I’ve been thinking all of us, people and/or organizations, have a responsibility to ourselves and the world to find our pieces of this purpose and achieve them. Perhaps it starts with autonomy and mastery. Does your heart tell you what the purpose is?

🙂


I am not sure when and where ‘thanksgiving’ started, whether it originated in the United States, or whether it came from some place else. It does not matter though. It is a wonderful pointer towards the importance of being thankful, every day (not just when it is thanksgiving), to appreciate everything for what it has to give, no matter how small (as small is big, too) and/or big (as big is leverage, opportunity, change).

I am thankful. I am thankful to all of my friends, who are all over the world, and whom I have been so fortunate to meet and learn with. Thank you guys! I am thankful to my family (my mom, dad, lovely sis, and the doggies who are always part of the equation/schema) whom I can always lean back and rely on and whom I can take care of in my way. Thank you! I am thankful to all of the people I have met and am going to meet, who have thought me things by talking with me, engaging with me in some way, showing me things, and/or just being themselves. Thank you! You will always be such an invaluable school for me.  I am thankful for all of the things I have learnt and am going to learn. I am really looking forward to all that! Last, but not least, I am thankful for the air that I breathe and the Earth where I am which is, after all, a truly amazing place. (I bet there are plenty such who, once they get to come here, they do not want to leave … Love must be enticing them to stay. ) Thank you!

I am thankful.


Somebody just brought an interesting article to my attention: ”Sharing is Creepy” by Nicolas Carr. In a nutshell, in it Nicolas discusses the supposedly soon-to-be-recognised psychiatric syndrome ”avatar anxiety”, or the anxiety that sometimes people may experience if they:

– either refrain from behaving online under the form of twittering, posting information on their online profiles, and engaging in online discussions, or

– they overtly and abundantly engage in such online behaviours.

http://www.roughtype.com/archives/2009/01/sharing_is_cree.php

Apparently, the fact that online behaviour is somewhat removed from the self and so does not let its genuine expression leads some people to experience anxiety to quite extreme degrees.  In my opinion, this is not because there is something wrong with those people but rather because of the set-up in which they live or have created for themselves.

Twittering, posting on online profiles like Facebook and LinkedIn, sharing photos and engaging in online discussions can greatly optimise how we live life yet are not life, our life, ultimately. What motivates online behaviours of any sort is the desire to be with, communicate with, share things with people per se, in other words, desire to see and get to know people. In this sense being online can optimise our being ourselves, yet it can not be our being ourselves. 

Online communication is limited in how much it can convey. Online communication only makes sense in the context of other forms of communication as the latter gives us references and clues with regards to how things stand between us and other people. The latter forms of communication tell us how much to give away and how much to not give away when we communicate online. I guess this may be something to not loose sight of when engaging in online behaviours.

In other words, ”avatar anxiety” has a solution called ”seeing the big picture”.

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